Get social, but not unprofessional, at office parties

In one unforgettable scene from the BBC’s The Office series, the manager David Brent played by  Ricky Gervais breaks into an impromptu dance number at an office charity fundraiser, even as the team stands around, visibly uncomfortable. Unfortunately, we see such scenes recreated time and again at office parties. As we gear up for the yearend office parties, there is always that one team member or a raucous group that makes it awkward for themselves and their colleagues by being too loud, rambunctious, or downright indecent.

While office parties are often a great setting for colleagues to bond, get to know each other, and just have some fun as a team, they cannot be an excuse to normalise unacceptable behaviour. Many let their guard down when drunk and become loose-lipped. They may let go of their sense of judgment and overstep personal boundaries while trying to be friendly.

Toeing the fine line

There is a fine line between the personal and the professional. Office parties are meant to get colleagues to relax, have fun, and mingle freely for better in-office collaboration. While being friendly is welcome as a way to build a personal rapport with teammates and colleagues, maintaining a balance is essential.

Anything that could end up creating an uncomfortable situation at work should be deliberately avoided. As an example, if you tend to get really brash after two drinks, stay aware of your limits and steer clear of controversies. Alcohol cannot be a license to behave badly and do and say as you please. The ‘I was drunk’ excuse will not cut it anymore.

Intent versus perception

While your intent may not be wrong, perception matters. If your actions can potentially put a strain on your working relationships, avoid indulging in those actions. While you may believe that you are just being friendly, the other party may get offended or consider your actions a violation of personal boundaries. In certain instances, misbehaviour (even perceived) at such events has led to even more serious repercussions.

The same applies to bystanders too. If you find a colleague crossing the line in their interactions with another colleague, speak up and find ways to diffuse the situation.

Also, it does not matter whether it is a formal work event, a company-sponsored party, or an informal team meet-up outside the office, the rules are the same.

Social events at work are a great opportunity to get to know your colleagues as people- to find shared interests, talk about hobbies, and build camaraderie at work. However, never lose sight of professional boundaries and basic human decency even as you let your hair down.